Super valuable snippet from a conversation between Agung, a local Balinese I have known for 2 years and me…

 

Me: “Agung, your family is doing so well, my friend! They are hard workers…”

 

Agung: ***Blank stare, working to compute being a “hard worker” as a compliment *** ……

 

“Well, Mandy, they just enjoy life. They enjoy today. Then they enjoy tomorrow.”

 

There’s some shit for you.

 

I’m pretty sure I put my Western foot in my mouth 100 times while in Bali.

I’m going to break this down for you and then help you see how to use this to be wildly successful in our hurting culture.

 

We go through our wild, “figure-out-who-you-are phase”… which is crazy hard in our culture because the question is rarely what it should be – WHAT EXCITES YOU?

The question is usually what is smart, what will get you kudos, what makes loads of $$?

 

Then we think that being a hard worker is some kind of arrival point (non-lazy).

 

Then when we start to get a little smarter, we stop judging ourselves for needing breaks – we get overwhelmed, burned out, frazzled and basically lose a huge part of motivation as to why we are even doing this thing called life…. It’s fakin groundhog day after groundhog day.

 

We take 2 vacations a year and spend 5 months just waiting for the next vacation.

So we start looking into yoga, crystals, herbs, oils, reiki…health coaching, life coaching…etc.

 

But then we hit double overwhelm….Now I have to work my job, and pay for all of this shit that is going to fix me – OR- quit my job, launch my new business and have no $.

……

“Agung, your family is doing so well my friend! They are hard workers…”

 

***BLANK STARE***

 

It probably sounded to him like it FEELS to us.

HARD.

 

As in not enjoyable, not easy, not peaceful…

 

Here’s the valuable lesson from my friend from a land far away –

Just enjoy today… then… just enjoy tomorrow.

 

I can already hear you screaming at me through the computer all the way over here in Bali:

BUT MANDY – I’m already working this hard and it’s not working…how am I supposed to just enjoy life being broke (or still at my soul sucking job)?????

 

I know.

This is why it’s not working.

You are trying to live from the soul while living from your head.

 

Its like wondering why you don’t feel like you live in Maui while you live in Alaska.

 

YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU LIVE IN MAUI BECAUSE YOU DON’T LIVE IN MAUI

SO LETS FKG MOVE TO MAUI!!!!

 

Track with me here – this is super valuable.

 

You do not discipline and will yourself into an enjoyable life.

 

Just like you can’t fight your way to peace. You can’t demand love and then feel loved. You can’t criticize yourself into a great body… on and on the list goes.

 

Do you see a common thread here?
This is my deepest message to the world.

 

YOU CANNOT GET ANYTHING GOOD FROM BAD.

 

YOU CANNOT HAVE A SUCCESSFUL THRIVING BUSINESS WHILE CHOOSING TO FOCUS ON FEAR.

 

You cannot “HARD” your way to “EASY”
You can just choose to focus on what’s next, and moment by moment choose to release the “what if”.

Once my clients truly get this, the work is to build the new neural pathways around this to change the behavior.

 

JUST TRYING TO FORCE YOURSELF TO CHANGE THE BEHAVIOR DOESN’T WORK. (in case you didn’t already notice lol)

 

Just enjoy today… then… just enjoy tomorrow.

This is what we do in the Accelerated Coaching Academy’s – Prosperous Coach Masterclass

**Go HERE to sign up for a call with Team ACA

 

Step by step.. Walk out building your business online and in person…. While we rewire the shit that comes up along the way.. So your brain is as strong as your soul <3

Remember, life is rigged for the bold.

It’s yours when you say it’s yours.

 

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