#behindthecurtain on LOVE LIFE??
YOU LOVE WHO YOU LOVE AND LOVE TELLS YOU WHAT TO DO. EASY BREEZY.
What if all those rules you have around a relationship is the very thing making it so stressful?
What if all those rules are stupid?
What if all those rules make it impossible for you to see what would and could actually make your relationship thrive?
WHATEVER ACTUALLY WORKS.
One thing I KNOW for sure: arbitrary rules suffocate.
Running a business that went from ground zero to on track for 7-figures within 3 years has taught me a thing or two about every other area of my life… INCLUDING LOVE.
WHEREVER YOU GO – THERE YOU ARE
When you learn to uplevel and get incredible results in one area – all the lessons you learn, all the ways you grow to make that happen are carried to all the other area of your life.
I noticed certain rules killed me in my business…then I noticed that same feeling of being killed slowly in other areas..
Friendships, mother life, traveling and freedom of time, and LOVE.
Yes, I asked for a divorce (you know how we roll… if you are new to me then welcome, and you’ll learn fast that I have no filter ? )
I asked for a divorce because something about that dynamic was killing me.. and if I am being really honest – a different piece was killing him. He may not have seen it.. but I saw it was killing him too.
So I could worry about the rules of marriage, the dogma, the social standards, the gossip and I could have just kept trying to get by and fit a square peg through a circle… while we all gasp for freedom and true deep joy..
(Note: Surviving is NOT THE FKG STANDARD… IT’S NOT – and fk all rules that make you feel like it is. ALL OF THEM)
Or.. I could do exactly what I do in my business to be so successful. I could recognize what is making me drown and cut it off, whatever that takes.
Whatever story I need to rewrite.
Whatever boundary I need to set.
Whatever rule I need to break.
Whatever support I need to pull in for that specific thing…
Can you just consider that LOVE isn’t actually supposed to be hard? I know I know… I was always taught that it was supposed to be hard.
Dealing w another human day-to-day is a challenge…
Having anyone in your space is a challenge and even hard..
BUT THAT’S NOT THE SAME AS LOVE BEING HARD.
Love is easy and epic and fun and healing and giving and all things inviting and rewarding.
So here is my BLUNT ASS example.
I was miserable in a marriage for 2 very particular reasons… the rest was great.
But 2 pieces made my soul die.
So I could have let my soul die and say – well he’s a great guy.. that should be good enough… but it had nothing to do with him and everything to do with the fact that 2 things felt like death.
So… fk the rules.
Fk the social norms
Fk the dogma.
Know what I know? I deserve to be wildly and epically happy.
So if a rule interferes w that – the rule goes.
I am damn well aware that in order to truly live a life of TRUE JOY & FREEDOM… and wild epic success… I am going to have to break a LOT of rules… but luckily for me – I’m blissfully good at this LOL.
Fk the rule that you have to stay married.
Fk the rule that you must have some sort of defined relationship and it has to look like this or that.
Fk the rule that LOVE has to look linear.
Fk the rule that you aren’t allowed to get out of things that suffocate you.
Fk the rule that it has to be ugly or bad to leave.
Fk the rule that you can’t keep the pieces that you did like and that did work.
Imagine how great all of your relationships would be if you were both honest and you set a boundary around the parts that didn’t work and kept the parts that did.
If you stopped expecting the other person to give you something they can’t and you accepted the things they can give.
Imaging how epic life would be if we enjoyed the enjoyable and put up boundaries where things feel suffocating.
Imagine if you were allowed to do something as BIG as getting divorced to put up a boundary where something doesn’t feel good, and still got to keep the parts that both of you enjoyed – friendships, comradeship, collabs, fun etc.
You can’t make someone else be healthy or honest or brave enough to enter this territory. BUT YOU CAN. You have the power to say what does and does NOT work for you, and set a SOLID BIG boundary up with what doesn’t and request to keep what does.
LOVE tells you what to do…
Because ONLY love exists… which means.. all hate, anger, resentment, jealousy, revenge, rules, judgement, fear etc is ALL BS. It’s the big mother fkg boogie man.
Only love exists.
When you feel expansion (mind you expansion can feel like a life threatening leap of faith where you are 70% sure it will be fatal.. but IT STILL FEELS EXPANSIVE) LEAN IN.
When you feel suffocation – SET A BOUNDARY.
Fk the rest of the confusing BS.
PS: You might be triggered as FK with this blog.. and I’m ok w that ?because you just deserve it ALLLLLLL – YOU DESERVE IT MOTHER FKG ALLLLLLLLLLL!
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