One of our greatest fears is that when we REALLY go for it… REALLY try our best… We will fail.
And let’s be a little more real for one second…
Our fear is that we will fail, and we won’t be able to handle how that FEELS.
Which is totally normal.
It’s so normal, and as human and we all feel this.
What’s important about this is to see it for what it is.
It isn’t an “I’m afraid I’ll fail.” problem.
It’s an “I don’t trust myself to act well when I feel that level of disappointment and hurt.”
This is the same reason we don’t leave a bad relationship or ASK FOR WHAT WE NEED.
So the first step is seeing it for what it is. Only then can we actually face it and move through it. SO you might fail. And it might feel disappointing. And you might want to grab a bag of chips and sulk. And then what?
Let’s play the reel out.
Then you go to your tribe and tell them and let them support you.
Don’t have one? Great… yet another valuable piece that’s coming up in this journey.
Maybe what’s really true is you don’t trust how you will feel because you don’t have many close friends and amazing people to support you when life gets crazy.
WHAT’S THE ALTERNATIVE??
Hiding, isolating, playing small and contorting yourself to the whims of others?
DON’T WE WANT TO SEE THESE SO WE CAN UPLEVEL THEM?
If you feel alone don’t you want to correct this and experience CONNECTION and FREEDOM?
Track with me here a second… Because I am going to show you how to have the life you DREAM of.
We are afraid to speak/write/let the world see us. The REAL us.
We are afraid if we do we will feel awful & alone and we don’t want to feel that way.
We are afraid to feel this way because we probably haven’t been super vulnerable with the people around us and so we have no support system to go to when we feel life has kicked us in the balls.
You have two choices. Keep isolating and hiding all of this or let it all out and trust the process. As you expose your heart others can find it.
When others can find your heart they can be in it with you.
Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” ― Brené Brown
Only when we are willing to explore what it feels like to be disappointed or let down…to fail and rise again do we come alive.
Why do all old people say the same thing about life??
GO FOR IT!!!! GO BIG, GIVE IT ALL YOU’VE GOT!!
Why would they say this?? Why is this always the big regret?
There is so much value in the journey of going for your dreams. This is where all the growth and JOY comes from.
You can do this sister.
It was ALWAYS YOU.