I don’t mean… be aggressive and rough with yourself.. quite the opposite.
I do mean… not being satisfied until you’ve looked it dead in the eye and said it out loud.
WHAT BAD HABIT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM REACHING YOUR GOALS?
The reason we avoid telling ourselves the truth about our messy behavior is because we don’t trust ourselves.
It’s hard to admit that you are not living to your own standard without then going on a tirade of self-berating and self-condemnation. ❤️
It’s scary to identify your weaknesses because you don’t trust yourself to see it and be able to raise your energy to handle it.
Am I moving and eating in a way that will sustain me in my older years to be around for my grandkids?
Am I showing up in a way that will lead to creating massive wealth for my kids and future generations?
Do I engage in life in a way that will lead to friendships, fun, excitement, and LOVE?
IT’S VULNERABLE AS HELL TO LOOK AT THESE and take radical responsibility.
There’s a particular feeling that we feel when we face it.
You are smart… before you ever even look at it.. you already know what’s next.
You are either going to SHIFT and get it done… or you are going to squirrel out and get to face the fact that you are unwilling to show up for yourself in this area.
It’s not easy.
It is not the enjoyable moments of life… but it surely BRINGS THEM!
I’ve gone through this so many times in the last 3 years that it’s now a natural part of who I am… and I can recognize now when I am refusing to tell myself the brutal truth.. and why… and how to fix it.
I believe in this process so much that my standard has become.. not only tell myself the truth.. but to say it to someone else.. and usually.. to say it to the person who I would want to know the least. (Excluding someone not trustworthy to know our crap)
What this does is it teaches my brain that any little tricks it wants to bring to the table to try to get me to hide my messy areas – WON’T WORK.
Not only will I look at them – I will OUT THEM.
VULNERABLY – openly – and usually publicly… so don’t bother trying to give me your excuses and resistance.
and it works.
I TOTALLY got caught up in the dating analysis.
I could be embarrassed about how long it took me to understand or be good at…
But I’m not.
Why would I be?
There is no faster way to be successful at something than to DO IT and learn from it.
and I LEARNED some epic amounts of stuff about myself, men, relationships, casual dating, my habit of analyzing after taking massive action in this area… and a good old fashioned reminder of how quickly the habit of denial can slip in.
POWERFUL IS THE WOMAN WHO JUMPS IN.
BUT more powerful is the woman who jumps in – does the best she can.. and then releases the judgment of doing it horribly…
AND GOES AGAIN.
and most powerfully???
The woman who jumps in – does it the best she can – releases judgment and learns… AND has powerful mentors and tribe around her to call her to more, encourage her, and call her on her BS.
Once upon a time, I thought bulimia would kill me…
Once upon a time, I was 230 lbs…
Once upon a time, I thought making $40k a month was hard…
Once upon a time, I thought traveling the world was for the lucky people…
Once upon a time, I thought having likeminded friends was terrifying…
Each of these areas changed when I faced that the focus wasn’t there, and the current habits were not going to get me to where I wanted to go.
I admitted it was WAY OFF TRACK.. and got support to change it.
It was HARD every single time!!
It was hard to face it and tell myself the truth…
It was SOOO ANNOYING that I had to spend money and time on resources to fix it… (insert temper tantrum)
I felt like I should be able to focus on my own.
I felt like I should be able to have the habits I wanted on my own… until I asked myself one question…
“HOW’S THAT WORKING FOR YOU SO FAR?”
If you haven’t will-powered your way there by now – YOU AREN’T GOING TO.
The skill is not there.
There is a skill to being able to focus and build a new habit.
Today… we begin with brutal honesty.
Just brutal.. full-on… naked.. raw.. honesty.
And maybe sprinkle in some – SAYING IT OUT LOUD.
And if you are really badass – then also calling in support NOW.
A decision isn’t a decision until you’ve taken action to back it.
You are better than this, and you deserve the most amazing experience of life everrrrrrr 🥂❤️
Ready or not 😉
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